So at this point so far I have filed for joint custody papers, and her counter reaction was to file for a domestic violence restraining order..which oddly enough gave us temporary custody. After that we had to watch a parenting video then went to mediation spent 4 hours where at the end she felt that I didn't deserve to see my son at all? Really? SO now we were supposed to be waiting for a trial now I find out that we have to take a 50 dollar class in order to try and save the state money and see if we can come to a decision. Well knowing her she wont but I'm not making this personal just trying to help any dads going through this.
Now this is for the state of North Carolina some states have different procedures but through all of this I have served as my own representation. 1 I cant really afford the prices some of the lawyers be talking about and 2 I know that if I lose this case and she does get sole custody and I never see my child then the system has caused him to grow up and live without a father but I will know I did my best. But the key is to get very very prepared. You need to think back and find all incidents that can actually show the mom was negligent. Or That you are capable to provide him food shelter and a healthy social environment to grow in.
If you have a criminal past then her lawyer will try to exploit that save yourself the shame and rain on his parade the first question he hints about your past explain that there is nothing you can do to change your past your here for the interest of your child and rehabilitation does not happen over night it is a process. When you answer a question that is possibly going to affect you negatively try and answer with an explanation then a yes or no.
So that is about all for now when I hear more news I will allow you avid readers my thoughts and 75 hits my last count should be seeing some comments..questions or something? Well enjoy and live for the moment
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